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Naomi Dubos

October 18, 1934 - February 25, 2020

Naomi Dubos took her last breath on February 25, 2020. She was 85. Naomi was born in San Francisco, California on October 18, 1934 to Angelina (born Burgeno) and Rosalio Martinez. The fourth child of seven, she had four sisters and two brothers.

Naomi is survived by her sister Amelia Toporovich and brother Robert Martinez; daughter Monique Dubos and her former spouse Patrick Jones; son Michel (Mike) Dubos and his wife Jonee; grandchildren Gabrielle, Cameron, Jared, and Odie, Opie, and Oko; great-grandson Cooper; former spouse Jacques Dubos; and a host of nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her parents and her sisters Lydia, Martha, and Velia, her brother Raymond, and by her many beloved cats.

As a young lady in 1950s San Francisco, Naomi and her sisters and girlfriends spent their evenings in the city’s clubs and theatres, wearing their elegant dresses and jewels, cocktailing in what she called their“drinking shoes” with heels so high they could barely convey her from the taxi to the bar stool. She cherished the music of that era throughout her life–first on her turntable, then on her walkman, and finally on her iPod. Her favorite music was from Broadway musicals by the likes of Cole Porter, Rodgers and Hammerstein, Stephen Sondheim and, more recently, Lin-Manuel Miranda when she became obsessed with “Hamilton.” She never got over her crush on Frank Sinatra, even after learning what a bastard he was in real life.

Naomi consumed life with gusto and threw herself into countless projects, cooking chief among them. When she married a Frenchman, she learned to cook French cuisine. She incorporated childhood favorites, perfected on multiple trips to Mexico, into the family meal plan, and she came back from a visit to Japan with new menu items to add to her repertoire. Her kids would often complain about not getting to eat anything “normal, like other families.” After her son formed a family of his own, she loved leaving a dish of something yummy in their refrigerator for them to discover.

Naomi was a voracious learner. As an adult, she learned to ski and spent winter weekends at Stevens Pass with her family and friends. She learned to sew and made her kids’ clothes until they insisted on store-bought. She took painting classes and studied the great painters. She joined an investment club and was among the earliest Apple investors. She even took piano lessons. After joining a community garden, she worked tirelessly on her “P-Patch” until it overflowed with colorful blooms. She volunteered at the local food shelf and with garden club raising money for charity. A city girl at heart, she relished visits to the cultural centers of the world: Mexico City, London, Dubrovnik, Madrid, Paris, Venice. She was in New York City on an architectural tour when the planes crashed into the Twin Towers on September 11, 2001. She couldn’t get enough of the daily political news coverage and devoured it through her headphones as she trekked around Seattle when she was in her prime and even during her final days from her home in Bremerton via TV or podcast.

And Naomi loved a party: cocktail parties, dinner parties, all night parties that spilled over into champaign breakfasts–wherever friends and family were gathered, there was sure to be a good time had by all. At the shore, on the slopes, around her patio in the summer, she was admired among her family and friends and even her kids’ friends as an exemplary hostess and bonne vivante, laughing and “carrying on,” as she called it, until all hours. Her final request, the last time she was awake, was for a manhattan. Her kids obliged, feeding her a few drops of good Bourbon. When Michel asked “How’s that mom?” she responded with a grin: “Delicious!”

Naomi’s last weekend was spent bathed in the warmth of family. She was overjoyed to have us all around her, savoring delicious meals together, laughing and drinking and telling stories, and reminiscing through old pictures. And if you believe in such things, there’s a great party going on in heaven right now, where she’s catching up with friends who were there to greet her at the pearly gates.

In lieu of flowers, please contribute to or volunteer for the charities Naomi supported: your local food shelf, your neighborhood polling place or voter registration organization, or the Central Valley Garden Club (CVGC), which raises money for Habitat for Humanity and provides scholarships for high school graduates pursuing degrees in horticulture or landscaping. Donations for the CVGC can be sent to 9981 Central Valley Road NE, Bremerton, WA 98311. Send condolences to: Dubos Family, 4641 Marine Drive Place, Bremerton, WA 98312.

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